When my husband and I just moved to our home I was still pregnant in my last trimester. Once my son was born I decided that I was going to be a SAHM (stay at home mom) And at the time it was the best decision ever. My husband had a decent job near the house and his hours were good. He would be home around 3-4pm and I would even take nice walks to his job with my son to go pick him up and we’d walk back home together. As the years went by my husband found a new job but it was a little further where I wasn’t able to take those walks anymore, things were still pretty decent and he came home good hours. My son got a little older and I placed him in childcare across from my house so I can have some mommy time and I was interested in finding work. I was getting depressed being in the house everyday and not bringing in any money to help support and my husband wasn’t really able to give me some money. I wanted to be independent and be able to go out when I want and not have to ask for anything. Years went by and I finally got a job at his daycare but they had relocated so we had to travel to it.
Things were still good but then my husband found another job that paid way better but now he’s much further and the hours suck. He gets home around 12am! I became pregnant with my daughter as my son was aging out of the childcare and starting preschool that fall. As my due date got closer I went on maternity leave in April and had my daughter in the middle of May. I thought she’d be in a childcare soon so I could go back to work but things didn’t go as planned. (that’s life for ya) My job didn’t give me a deadline to when to return but because my boss didn’t communicate with me I ended up having to be let go (but that’s another story) Months went by and I got a call back for the job that i’m currently at now and it’s full time with great benefits. Now I have my neighbor taking my son to school and picking him up, watching him until I return home which is usually by 6:30pm and she watches my daughter as well…
I appreciate everything she’s doing for me but my son has been doing things that he hasn’t use to and not in a good way. He’s dropped the F bomb a few times and my son said my neighbor say’s it but when I spoke with her she said the kids outside says it when she lets my son and her kids go play… I know she says it. And also every time I pick him up from school his pull-up is wet or he peed his pants. I’m in the process of potty training so he wears underwear all day at school and then his teachers put him in pull-ups to travel home in… I know my neighbor keeps him in pull-ups until I return… The same pull-up the teacher puts him in… Mind you he gets out of school at 3:10.. I get him 6:30. I spoke to her about it and she mentioned she has her son take him… Her son is 9 years old, my son needs an ADULT to put him on the potty because he will not listen to a child!
I’m just so frustrated. I wish I could be a SAHM but I can’t because then I’d have to depend on my husband and I really don’t want to, I’m to independent. And having my own money made things a little easier to go out and take the kids out as well. I was thinking about becoming part time but I’m not sure how that would work out. I wish I could spend more time with my kids like the in the past. I’m in the process of searching for after school programs for my son and day cares for my daughter. Ugh.